The meaning of a communication is the response you get.

I was recently reminded about those times in life when I have felt ‘unheard’ – no matter how hard I try, others just do not seem to be able to hear what I want to say.

Of course, this is about me not them. What it is really telling me is that I have failed to communicate effectively.

When I say that I am being unheard, it transfers the responsibiity from me to you. It shifts the responsibiity from me to communicate more effectively to you to listen better.

‘I am not being heard’ suggests that one or more of my needs is not being met – and who else but me can figure out which need is unmet and what I need to handle that.

When did you last feel unheard? What need remained unmet? How can you express that need to others ans seek help, or indeed meet it yourself?